“we talk, we talk, we talk, but we don't talk much about how what we say goes into children's ears as a sound and turns into a feeling. i wanted to take a breather where the sound turns into feeling. let's discuss what we actually mean when we use language patterns such as 'i've said it forty times', how the child hears it and how it makes sense.” ziya selcuk, don't do it, baby. baby don't. my child, don't do it. don't do it! i said don't do it! i've told you forty times, don't do that! you've said "don't" over and over. your child continued to do so. finally, “i told you forty times!” you said too. but maybe you never thought about what your child meant when he did this. however, the question you should have asked was this: what does the child mean when he is warned 40 times and continues to do the same thing? when we say "communication with the child", for some reason, we mostly understand a form of communication such as "we will tell, we will tell, the child will listen, we will ask, he will have a child". the events we experience in communication with the child are, in a sense, like an iceberg in a huge ocean of parenting. remember, there's also the bottom of the iceberg. i said, what did he understand? he said, what did i understand? how did what i said make him feel? what did he mean by this behavior? what are the things he didn't say when he didn't answer me? what are the things he covers up when he says it? dedicated to the field of child development and education, dr. from ziya selçuk's precious pen, a versatile hasbihâl that will subject the language patterns we use frequently to a new analysis in terms of parenting and change our perspective on children and childhood... a call for transformation that will start from the family and spread to the society through the patterns, idioms, allusions and emphasis we use. more than 10 stocks are offered to be sold at the campaign price. the listed price is valid until 16 october 2026. Improved version for clearer understanding and better search visibility. Suitable for users seeking detailed and reliable product information.